Miko’s Moments – Establishing Boundaries

Welcome to another Miko’s Moments.

Yesterday I posted an article all about adopting a boundaries mindset, and today I thought I would share some insight into my boundary-building journey. I hope this information will help you, especially with this week’s Friday Freebie Boundary Worksheet.

Boundaries aren’t just for your finances but for every aspect of your life.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there was a time I would allow myself to be exposed to nonessential stress-inducing elements and toxicity. In fact, I would often allow myself to be uncomfortable rather than voicing my boundaries.

This led to a lot of burnout – emotionally and socially.

Implementing, practicing, and using boundaries took time and practice. 

So today, I want to share with you something that I learned.

There are five types of boundaries that are essential for maintaining healthy control in my life. I first read this on an Instagram post shared by the lovely Nicole LePera, who goes by the name Holistic Psychologist.

1. Emotional Boundaries focus on barriers for inappropriate topics, dismissing emotions, and emotional dumping. It’s also the distinction that no one else’s emotions are mine.
2. Mental Boundaries refer to your personal thought process. More specifically, you have the right to own your thoughts, values, beliefs, and opinions.
3. Time & Energy Boundaries are all about protecting those two important factors in your life.
4. Physical boundaries include your needs for personal space, comfort level with being touched, and physical needs. This can even include comments around your appearance.
5. Material boundaries refer to your possessions, when and how you lend things, and how your possessions are treated.

One of the exercises I completed in my life was listing out important boundaries I wanted to establish. From there, I labeled what category that boundary falls under. 

Doing this helped me realize that I would dismiss my needs a lot of the time because I didn’t want people to think I was rude or aggressive. I was wonderful at Material boundaries but horrible at emotional boundaries.

Use the worksheet in this week’s newsletter to help you establish healthy boundaries in your life. Once you can pinpoint where you feel drained and depleted, you will be better equipped with voicing your needs.

I will be back next week for another Miko’s Moments. Have a beautiful weekend!

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